If there is a person that you know who is an alcoholic and needs help, Al-Anon is one of the most effective groups of helping the achieve that. The goal of theses groups is to be advantageous and therapeutic.
Al Anon was founded in 1951 and is an organization which provides support to the friends and family members of people who are addicted to alcohol. 16 years after Bill W founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Al-Anon was founded by Lois W. his wife and Anne B. She herself faced the challenge of supporting a convalescent alcoholic, so, she created an organization aimed at people with the same problem. Al-Anon is a self-supported organization which exists thanks to financial contributions from members. Support groups meetings help alcoholics' family members and friends to cope with the situation and treat their loved ones better, even if they haven't recovered yet.
Providing support to family members by making them understand that they are not alone in this struggle is the primary focus of Al-Anon.
Alcoholism Is A Family Illness
Al-Anon sees alcoholism as a family illness, because it negatively affects both the drinkers and people around them. It is integral for the alcoholic's recovery to have a family and friend support system around them.
Some family members blame themselves for their loved one's drinking or may not realise why recovery is their loved one's primary concern. Meetings deal with these issues and make members understand that alcoholism is a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon Groups For Teens
Teens are also affected by alcoholism and that is why Alateen was formed within Al-Anon to help them.
Such meetings allow youngsters to meet with others of the same age, making their experience more relatable and efficient.
Al-Anon Group Advantages
The people in the group are struggling like you or are going through what you are experiencing as a victim of alcoholism. All are different, yet Al- Anon members have all had similar experiences in their struggles. The main advantage of Al-Anon is searching people who have had similar experiences to talk to. There are Al-Anon meetings all across the nation. Phone us on 0800 772 3971 , and we'll help you find the one near you.
Expectations For A Meeting
Al-Anon meetings are open for anybody who is affected by someone else's drinking habit. Al-Anon can assist you if you are anxious about someone's drinking habit or if their lifestyle affects you personally.
The outcomes of these meetings is what scares some people from coming. The following are some of the key things to know when you are coming for the meetings:
Al-Anon is anonymous meaning you do not identify yourself in the meeting
Whether personally or through a family member, everyone in each meeting has been impacted by alcoholism
You are not forced to talk or discuss your issues though it is encouraged
There Are Several Kinds Of Meetings
There are meetings where you may not be helped but someone else might be.
This group is not affiliated to any religion
The 12 recovery steps are followed in this group
Going to the meeting means that you accept the fact that there are matters discussed that will be of help to you or not. Based on this formula the meetings concentrate on the sharing of experiences and the hardships of the attendees rather than giving them any instructions about what they should do.
As a rule, group meetings begin with reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. Adapted, from the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous, these steps are nearly straight sword. Similarly to AA, Al-Anon members rely on a facilitator who guides them through the steps and who is always ready to support when the going gets tough. The 12 Steps are as follows:
We admit that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
Members can learn to accept alcoholism as a disease which they cannot control in others.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Members often drive themselves to the brink in an attempt to change or control their loved one.
The members then recognise the fact that there is a solution out there for them.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
A key step to the program and acceptance of learning to let go.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Self-discovery plays a huge role in making the steps; and this is its beginning.
Attendees have the option of creating a list of how they could have wronged themselves or their loved ones with examples like threats issued, Etc.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrong doings.
This is an examination of every item within the moral inventory of the member and will allow them to delve into every problem.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
This step is highly essential as it is the complete acceptance of the recovery process supported by a Higher Power.
calmly begged Him to remove our drawbacks.
When they reach This point, the member can realize the part they played by judging and trying to control their loved ones which could have driven them into more drinking.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Mostly, doing changes begins with yourself.
Sometimes it not always your fault a person is addicted.
Personal acceptance and pardoning is also a way to getting help.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible unless to do so would injure them or others.
Working on the steps of recovery and help after forgiving yourself is the next step.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
To complete 12 Steps takes time.
Even if the members have already completed their inventory, missteps are normal.
Step 10 identifies this is an ongoing process.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
This step is a personal, spiritual one; it comprises acceptance and comfort in view of the great stress of recovery.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
The last step includes perception that the persons journey is not over yet.
Members are then motivated to assist other members with what they have learned.
Learning About The Higher Power
Members do have an acceptance of a higher power, even though Al-Anon is not a religious program. Nevertheless, the term " higher power" is open to imply as one's own individual beliefs. Members of all religions and beliefs are accepted at Al-Anon and none is coerced to change their beliefs.